胜利者和失败者的大差异

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胜利者和失败者的大差异

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  单位发了一张传单,很正式,还是中英日三国语言对照,来源是http://www.stanford.edu/~ykonchit/Poems。我列出中英对照部分如下:

  (1)A Winner makes mistakes and says:I was wrong. But a Loser says:it wasn't my fault.
胜利者犯错误后说:“我错了”,而失败者却说:“那不是我的错”。

  (2)A Winner credits his good luck for winning even though it wasn't luck. But a Loser credits his bad luck for losing, but it wasn't about luck.
胜利者把成功说成运气好,即便不是运气;失败者把失败归咎于运气差,其实无关运气。

  (3)A Winner works harder than a loser and has more time. But a Loser is always too busy saying a failure.
胜利者比失败者工作更努力,时间还更多;失败者总是很忙,忙着纠结以往的失败。

  (4)A Winner goes through a problem and a Loser goes around.
胜利者直接应对问题;失败者回避问题。

  (5)A Winner shows his sorry by making up for it. But A Loser says his sorry but he does the same thing next time.
胜利者用行动弥补来表示歉意;失败口头道歉,却会重蹈覆辙。

  (6)A Winner knows what to fight for and what to compromise. But a Loser compromise on what he should not and fights for what isn't worth fighting for.
胜利者懂得为何奋斗,因何妥协;失败者在不该妥协时妥协,却为不值得的东西奋斗。

  (7)A Winner says I am good, but not as good as I ought to be. But a Loser looks down at those who have not yet achieved the position he has.
胜利者说“我还行,但还不够好”。失败者却看不起那些还没达到他地位的人。

  (8)A Winner respects those who are superior to him and tries to learn from them. But a Loser resents those who are superior to him and tries to find fault.
胜利者尊重强者,并努力向他们学习;失败者怨恨强者,并试图挑毛病。

  (9)A Winner is responsible for more than his job. But a Loser says, I only work here.
胜利者工作负责,哪怕超出其职责时;失败者说,我也就是在这儿挣挣钱。

  (10)A Winner says"There ought to be a better way of doing it". But a Loser says why change it, that's the way it has always been done.
胜利者说“应该还有更好的办法可找”;失败者说,改它干啥,一直不就是这么干的嘛。
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  这些方面只是表象,而最近一件让我颇为震惊的小事,可能让我窥见了成功者和失败者更内在的差别。

  我的这个网站重新上线后,我给一个朋友去电,请他有空过来逛逛。他答应了,很快回应说访问很麻烦。我当时也确实在做各种调整,网站经常下线,上线地折腾,所以对方访问不畅也很正常。等我费了大劲搞定了http3,一切都步入正轨后,再次请他光临。他又回复说注册啊,留邮箱啊很麻烦,能不能简单点儿,我回答说只浏览不用注册啊……

  愣了许久我才弄明白,可能对方根本没上过这种网站,对超链接的概念和应用都不熟,更别说理解早期互联网的包容与分享的核心精神了。这位朋友不是身处深山老林,难以接触到电脑的人,他一直在大城市生活,身边各种电脑和智能手机伸手可得,平时的工作也是在应用电脑的。今年应该是互联网实质性进入中国30周年的年头,早期的互联网精神已经式微,甚至消亡,可惜有些人直接跳过了锣鼓喧天,鞭炮齐鸣,波澜壮阔的互联网1.0时代,直接到了各自埋头,无缘对面不相逢的互联网2.0时代。呵呵。

  这位朋友事业很成功,是我羡慕的榜样。从这件小事我才明白我们工作8小时外的巨大不同,我们的本职工作都不以电脑为主业,但我下班后沉迷于网络,而他却一心一意地在为本职工作操心,在为自己的职业生涯规划,在努力靠近自己的人生目标。

  所以成功者和失败者的差别远比我们想象的大,也更隐蔽。我们失败者一直在误解成功者,以为他们和我们没什么不同,只是更努力而已。其实成功者的人生使命感,思维出发点和思维模式都和一般人有很大不同。而且这种不同是天生的,可能后天还难以习得。

  因此,我觉得不要要求每一个人都能成功,因为只有少数人才能拿到成功人生的剧本。而一个合格的HR人士或企业管理者一眼就能看出求职者或从业者手中拿的是什么剧本。那么失败者也不必过于悲伤,要认清自己的命运,若能做一个不拖累社会,不连累家庭,不戕害自己生命,并无愧本心的善意失败者,足矣。
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